Last week I wrote about the connection between family and health as far as the examples that were set for us as children. One week later I find myself contemplating this again. Today my mother is in the hospital with heart issues. Her father died of heart disease–it runs on that side of her family. My siblings and I are in a continuous text chain discussing what the doctor is saying, what our next move might be, and who’s going to let her dog out.
I’m reflecting on the questions I asked last week and clearly see that my mother was not the best model of a healthy lifestyle (far from it, actually). Yet, I’m amazed at how strong her body is, despite how she’s treated it. It’s incredibly resilient and, frankly, stubbornly functioning.
Then I flip the story around and consider what kind of model I am for my kids. I feel proud that our conversation has always been around health–discussions based on loving ourselves rather than being based on fear. My kids see me hiking, biking, walking, yoga-ing, kayaking, dancing. They see me obnoxiously carrying my steel water bottle around with me everywhere. I not only harp on them to eat fruit first, but they see me choosing fruit over the junk.
They see me hurting as I move through the emotions of my own mother becoming more frail and continuing to make choices that don’t support her vibrancy. I talk with them about how I’m feeling. You see, I’m teaching them that fully feeling your emotions and asking for the support you need is an important piece of good health and wellbeing. And man, do family relations have ways of exercising our muscles of good mental, emotional, and spiritual health!
I have a feeling you can relate.
So today I’m going to share a couple of tools I use when I’m swimming in the full emotion of health issues; mine, my family’s, the bombing victims in Syria, or the starving children in parts of Africa.
The first step I was reminded of last night in a group session with my Coach:
Begin to notice when you are in “the feels.” Sometimes it comes with doom & gloom thoughts of the worst that could happen. Sometimes it’s just waves of tears, anger, and gratitude. It could look a million different ways, but notice when you’re in it…and pause.
Put yourself in this moment and notice your own breath going in and out of your body. You are breathing. You are okay–right now you are okay. Let your mind quiet, pulling it back from the future of “what could happen” and back from the past of “if only I had done this differently.” Feel the space of right now.
The second tool is something I learned in my reiki training:
Create an image of the person who’s health is weighing on your heart. At first you may see them as they are right now–suffering with an injury, a disease, a deadly habit, or a broken heart. Imagine you have a magic pen (kind of like that app that lets you smooth out every wrinkle and blemish on the photos on our iPhone–I don’t use that, btw) that can heal up whatever crack you see in that person’s wholeness. See that person as healed and vibrant. Imagine them smiling, moving with ease. See them surrounded by a divine healing light. Hold that image in your mind for at least a few rounds of breath.
Our thoughts carry vibrations. Our bodies are not strengthened by thoughts of worry or fear.
Our bodies are strengthened by us remembering that we are whole.
Even in depleted physical condition, we are always whole.
This is what people mean when they use the greeting “love and light.” Well, this is what I mean when I say it…
I see you through the lens of love. May you be surrounded in divine healing light and remember that we are all already whole.
peace, love, and memories of wholeness to you all~